“The World Needs To Know It, Kristy!”

February 5, 2017

Today, Clay and I are celebrating our 18th Anniversary! 18 years……There is much I could say about that, but we’ll save those thoughts for later. Today, I’m excited to tell you that this is the blog post I’ve been waiting to write since May 3, 2016.

Drum roll please…….

This blog will be from Clay. There are so many things the Lord has done in his life since his diagnosis that I’ve wanted to tell you about, but it’s not my story to tell. It’s his. And, he’s ready to share it with you.

Because it’s our Anniversary weekend, we wanted to get away and have some time alone. We were discussing this earlier this week, and, while we were trying to think of somewhere to go, my sweet friend Gail Lloyd texted me to offer us their lake house for the weekend. God is so good to us. He always provides for our needs, and most of the time, our wishes. We said yes! I threw some clothes in a bag and we left.

We had a short drive over to the lake and only stopped to get groceries. (Side note…..don’t ever take a steroid filled man to the grocery store! We have enough food for 2 weeks!) We arrived and we haven’t left the house since. We have been eating good.

Gail has the most wonderful swing in the entire world on her screened porch. We sat there for hours just talking. When we are alone, we tend to talk a lot…..about everything. We have really been able to share our deepest thoughts with each other during this time. Some are hard to say out loud, but God has helped us to be honest with each other and I think it helps us cope.

The swing was like therapy!



So, with all those thoughts on our minds, we went to bed. By 2 am, we were both wide awake, staring at the ceiling. When I woke up, I could tell that Clay had already been awake for a while….just him and his thoughts. He hugged me really tight and the first words out his mouth, with tears running down his face were,

“I have such a peace. It’s so real. The world needs to know it, Kristy. They need to know that there is peace in Jesus that can not be shaken. It can’t be taken away. Even by death. I want to write a blog. Even if just one person reads it, it would be worth it for just one person to know that there really is a peace that passes understanding.”

Imagine how this makes me feel. Imagine how much this helps me and our kids and our parents. We could never have imagined a harder fate, but we couldn’t have asked for a better man with whom to face it. And, we know it’s not because Clay is anything special (you know what I mean.) It’s because of his relationship with God. It’s because he loves the Lord.

We talked for several hours that night. At one point, I said, “Let’s go write the blog right now. I’ll make pancakes (how romantic?!) and we’ll type your blog.” To which he replied, “Um. I’m good right here!” Ha. So, we stayed in the bed and just talked. When I woke him up the next morning, I reminded him that he was going to write a post. He said,

“No. What I really meant was that I want you to write a blog from my point of view.”

So, here goes. These are my words, telling you Clay’s heart. He has shared it with me over and over, again. And, let me tell you, before you even read his words…..this is real, y’all. I have walked with this man through his shadow of death from the very first minute. He has never wavered. He has never questioned God, or blamed God, or demanded something from God. In the quiet of the night, in the most private moments, he doesn’t waver. This is truly how he feels.

Back to 2 am, laying in bed. The next thing he said was how Chris Tomlin’s song “I Will Rise” was running through his mind.

“There’s a peace I’ve come to know, though my heart and flesh may fail.”

Clay is a real music buff. He’s always loved music…every kind. You could find a playlist for any occasion in his Spotify account. When we first met, he couldn’t believe that I didn’t even know who Sting was. He almost didn’t marry me because my music repertoire was so limited, and I almost didn’t marry him because his was so broad. I mean, he had Prince in his CD collection. And, for this Assemblies of God, Bible believing, church pew raised, little Christian girl, that seemed like a big obstacle.

For years, Clay and I debated how to live in the world and not be of it. We discussed the “lines” around Christianity and what we should allow in our lives or not allow.

All our debating didn’t mean anything when he got diagnosed. While we were in the hospital in Baton Rouge, we would play worship music all day on a bluetooth speaker. It helped us so much to have the room filled with worship and praise. We found that it kept our minds in the right place….all day. I noticed that Clay started listening to his worship music playlist constantly. He played Selah, and Andrae Crouch until everyone in our family knew every word and note of every song.

I noticed one day that all his playlists in Spotify were deleted, except the ones named “Sunday Worship” and “Hymns.”

When he had his radiation treatments every day for six weeks, he played those songs and they helped him find the strength to lay, with his head literally bolted to that table, and remain completely calm. It was the music that helped his heart worship and reminded him of the strength of our God.

I am by no means saying that you are in sin if you are listening to anything but Christian music, but Clay’s experience testifies that when your life changes, and you suddenly find yourself in your valley of the shadow, you won’t be asking someone to play U2 or Willie Nelson or the Eagles. You will be clinging to songs that encourage your heart and help you concentrate on a God of miracles.

And, if you are in a valley of shadows, and you are not listening to music that edifies your soul, please, we beg you, start. Tune your heart to songs that edify you and remind you about the power of God. Songs that encourage your faith and keep your thoughts fixed on things above, not things below. Get rid of the things that draw you into the world. Put your attention and your affection on things above.

Music is not the only thing that changed for Clay. The first night we were home from the hospital in Baton Rouge, we were awake in the middle of the night talking. We just started praying together. Burned in my memory forever is Clay’s very heartfelt prayer of repentance. It just started pouring out of him. He prayed for God to forgive him for allowing his love for the world to grow so strong in his life. He asked forgiveness for not loving God more and for not spending more time reading the Word and praying. His prayer was probably much like many of yours would be. When you realize that you may actually see Him soon, your heart begins to search itself and the Holy Spirit can really work.

Suddenly, sports and music and movies are not so important anymore. When we got home from the hospital, we checked the mail and Clay had a Netflix movie in the mail. He just held it and stared at it. He looked over at me and said,

“Do you know how many hours of my life I have wasted watching movies? And baseball games? I mean, a baseball game is 3 hours. I’ve watched hundreds and hundreds.” He handed me the movie and told me to cancel Netflix movies. It was very sobering to watch the work the Lord was doing. He was drawing Clay’s heart away from the world and to Him.

Again, we are not saying anyone is going to hell for watching movies, but how much of your time are you spending on them? How much of your time is dedicated to sports, movies, music….anything that keeps your heart attached to this world? Let the Holy Spirit search your heart. Don’t wait. Do it now.

“Jesus has overcome and the grave is overwhelmed.”

Clay continued to talk,

“Jesus has overcome my grave. He is with me in the valley of the shadow of death. That’s where I am, you know? I’m in the valley of the shadow of death and I don’t fear evil. He is with me. He has never left me. I am not afraid. My faith is not shaken. It is firm because it has always been built on a firm foundation. My faith is not weakened. Do you hear me Satan? You hear that? I’m not shaken. So, you do what you’ve got to do, bubba! Bring it on. I’m not afraid.”

Now, there is something very powerful about laying in bed at 2 am with a man who is literally facing death and he’s talking to Satan. I felt a million emotions. I wanted to jump up and start boxing with him – that weaselly little enemy who thinks he is so big and bad. How must it feel to him to have tried so hard to steal this mans faith, just to find him laying in bed, speaking directly at him, with a resolve that you just can’t hardly believe?! I think he tucked his tail and ran as far as he could get from us that night.

You can have this. You can have this resolve. You can face your enemy with a strength that will not relent. A power that will not fail. A faith that will not end. A heart that will be filled with worship for your Savior who is the reason you have this strength. You can have this.

Clay talks a lot about how he grew up knowing Jesus. He tells a story about when he was 8 years old…he was walking down the street to a friend’s house and he gave his heart to the Lord. He says, “I remember just talking to Jesus, like He was my friend…like He was walking beside me. I just told Him that I loved Him and I wanted to serve Him for the rest of my life. I wanted Him to be with me all my life. And I knew He heard me and came into my heart right there. And, He never left me, again.”

It’s that simple. All you have to do is tell Him you love Him and you want Him to be your Savior. Then, He comes and He works in you. He’ll change you. He’ll forgive your sin and change the desires of your heart. He’ll draw you away from the world and draw you to Him. He’ll be your comfort, your friend, your peace.

“I’ve known him my whole life, you know. He has always been with me. I knew Him when I was just in kids’ choir, singing songs about Jesus. I knew Him. I knew Him in High School when I faced temptations and He never let me go. I knew Him in College when He guided my steps. I knew Him when we got married and had children. I’ve always known Him and felt His presence in my life. It’s real. And, it prepared me for this. His presence in my life prepared me for this. I have been able to face it without fear because He’s never left me.”

If you read this, and you don’t relate, no worries. You can know Him like this right now. Jesus said that we must have the faith of a child. So, do what Clay did. Tell Him that you love Him and talk to Him like He’s your friend. He longs to be your friend. To be your help. To be your rescuer. To be your life.

By now, it was at least 3:30 am. And, our conversation changed to other people in our life who are suffering. We talked about how much harder some other situations are. How we are surrounded by suffering. It is easy to be so focused on dealing with your own situation, that you forget about others around you who are suffering just us much, or maybe even more. We were naming them by name and talking about how we don’t know if we could handle it if we were in the same situation as others.

Suddenly this holy anger rose up in him and he started talking in a very firm voice, “Yes we could. We could handle whatever God decides to give us. But, not because we are able. Because He gives us the gifts we need in order to handle it. He does it. He has given me a gift to handle a brain tumor. He gives Roxanne the strength to handle ALS. He gives Robin the strength to handle migraines. He gives us what we need. And it’s different for every person. So, we can’t say that anymore. I’ll never say that anymore. I’ll never say that ‘I can’t handle something.’ Because God will give me what I need to handle anything.”

It reminded me of II Peter 1:3-4,

“According as His divine power hath given unto us all things that pertain unto life and godliness, through the knowledge of him that hath called us to glory and virtue: Whereby are given unto us exceeding great and precious promises: that by these ye might be partakers of the divine nature, having escaped the corruption that is in the world through lust.”

He gives us everything we need to live this life and to live it in Godliness. Why would anyone want to live this life without Him? Without His help. His peace. His love. His grace.

It is so peaceful to hold to all those precious promises and to know that He is in control. His rod and His staff comfort us as we walk.



This morning, in my own quiet time with the Lord, I wanted to read Psalm 23. You can all probably recite it. But, it took on a new meaning to me when I heard Clay talking about it the way he did. So, I read it again.

“The Lord is my Shepherd, I shall not want….Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me. Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anoints my head with oil; my cup runneth over.”

I had this image of me and Clay, with our kids, our parents and our closest family and friends, sitting at a huge banquet table in the middle of the valley of the shadow of death. This place that is supposed to be so scary. It’s dark, because we are in the shadow. But, the fact that we are in a shadow also means that there is light nearby. Light that is creating the shadow. And, it’s just a shadow. It can’t really hurt us. So, here in the shadow, God has spread a table for us. It is covered with food. Our cups run over, so there’s plenty to drink. And, we are anointed with His oil. Anointed.

We are in the presence of our enemy….because it is his shadow we are in. However, God is here and we are feasting. Untouched by our enemy’s plans. Untouched by his schemes.

The best part is that the reason God allows our enemy to be here is so that he will be forced to watch us feast at this table of blessing while we sit in his shadow. He has to watch us rejoice in the Lord. He is watching us testify of the goodness of God. He sees our cup running over. He has to watch us eat all this delicious food and he can’t have it. That must really be a horrible fate for him. He thought we would come into his shadow and be fearful, cold and shamed. But, the opposite has happened.

We are comforted, peaceful, full and happy. Because God is with us. Jesus is here. The Holy Spirit leads us through the valley. We walk along at a comfortable pace and the rod and staff comfort us. That is amazing. Simply amazing. And, it is true. It is real. And, you must know it.







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  1. Roxanne Alonzo Atkinson says:

    Your words touched me to my core…they were inspired by the Holy Spirit and anointed…God is so good.

  2. Beth Doucet says:

    That was beautiful!

    I have always heard, ” marry someone who loves the Lord more than you!”

  3. Linda B. says:

    I have walked in your shoes! Your blog reminded me of myself and my husband just last year.
    Will keep you and your family in my prayers.

    • Linda, we spoke on the phone just about a month ago. I referred you to our PTF VP, but we got to talk for a few minutes. It’s a small world sometimes! Thank you for your prayers and I pray that our story will, somehow, continue to minister to you.

  4. Kathleen Robillard says:

    August 11, 2010 on my 48th wedding anniversary, the doctors told me that Gene, my wonderful Gene had stage 4 liver cancer. I could not have made it through the year we fought the cancer, but when my Gene died, I could not have made it through all of the emptiness with out my Lord. He gave me strength when I needed it and he gave me a peace that I can not explain except to say God’s love. My prayers go out to you and your Clay. Enjoy every moment you have with him. May God bless you for sharing your blog, it touches me to the core. I miss Gene every day, but I thank God for the years we had together. He was my soul mate and I will see him again and will never have to let him go.

  5. Cindy Estep says:

    Again Kristy this touched me just as your other post did. Being their myself with my husband helps me understand a lot. Thank you so much for sharing yours and Clay’s words .. God Bless You and Clay both. By the way Happy Anniversary 💞

  6. Cindy Keith says:

    Happy Anniversay Clay and Kristy!!! May God continue to bless you and use both of you to reach each one of us by sharing the Love of Christ experienced through your lives for many years to come!!

  7. phoebe says:

    Thank you so for sharing. We are walking in the shadow also. We could not walk this journey (kidney cancer, lung cancer, 2 brain cancers, 2 spine cancers, and now cancer in the only kidney remaining) without our faith, prayers of believers, and the knowledge our God goes before any enemy allowed in our path, even cancer!!!